My long departure from the world of blogging has been caused by many things over the course of the past year. Many which will be cleverly, or not so cleverly, discussed in this blog posting. Most likely, this post will be poorly written as it has been a while since I last exercised my blog writing muscles.
1. Love – We all search for it. We date, we break up, we date again, we break up again. We repeat this pattern until we find the one person who drives us the least crazy in our lives; someone we can call our best friend. I once heard a lovely speech from a new groom at a wedding. He remembered the moment when he knew he had to marry the girl he was with. It was when he realized that he missed her when she was gone. That is where I’ve come to in my life. I miss my fiance and worry about him when he is gone. He is a part of my family now; and I want him to be safe, happy and healthy at all times. Sure…he drives me crazy. But I know that we have a friendship and love that will grow stronger over time.
2. Marriage – On to the wedding…because no great love story is complete without a wedding. Yes, I am at that point in my life where planning a wedding is necessary. I could take the same path that my hippy parents took and plan my wedding in a week, complete with a wedding cake that has a ‘Happy Birthday Ralph’ message written on top of it. Or, I could elope and spare everyone the expense of flying, driving, taking time off from work, etc. And then I remembered that maybe this once, this celebration was about more than just me. As I start my new life with my future husband…my parents, brother, sister-in-law, friends and extended family will be a part of it as well. So, I would like for them to all be together to witness our union and be happy with the fact that we started our lives together with them present.
3. Finances – Planning a wedding is not cheap. Planning a wedding, buying a house and getting furniture all at the same time is INSANE!!!! So, my fiance and I thought…perfect…let’s take it all on in 2009! Bring it on! So, since January, my fiance and I have been planning our wedding and searching for a home. Now that we’ve moved into our home, we’ve started to get furniture and slowly put our lives together again. Furniture moves into the house…dollars are drained from our bank accounts. Makes sense.
The wedding planning continues, and I check my budget daily. Now, I never considered myself to be one of those girls who wanted an ‘out of this world’ wedding with extravagant flowers and decorations, but everything adds up so quickly. So, I missed my chance to save money and elope to have an Elvis wedding in Vegas about 7 months ago! Now, I will have to go forward with printing invitations and figuring out the playlist for the reception (rest assured that Celine Dion will not be on that playlist). All I can hope is that everyone has fun. I will have a chance to build back up my fiances after it is all said and done.
There…that’s been my year in a nutshell. Now that I am back on the blog writing bandwagon, maybe my next post will be better!!!